Today marks the day of my first blog. I have chosen to write on an experience of mine from yesterday 26/2/09. It took place in one of my lectures. We were doing group work and I happened to be in a group of girls and I was the only dude. I dont know how long distance relationships came up as the topic but next thing they were talking about it. For once i could sit and enjoy womens point of view when it comes to relationships. It sparked interest in me to write a blog about it!
Truthfuly, as I sat there listening to their views, i constantly reflected on the things i hear from friends, cousins and even lecturers. Funny enough lecturers open up with their own experiences of romance. Although there was a general view on long distance relationships not everyone thought the same. One of the girls admitted that long distance relationships with someone even in a neighbouring country is a daunting task for her. It made me wonder. So the chance of you being with a person lies on the fact that you are in the same place but in the event that person leaves for another country it becomes a waste. It becomes a game. my only question is then so what do you say about all the stuff you built when you were together? Unless if its something you both agree that it is dating for fun then that makes sense. But in a situation where you are looking for love then each experience is not an environment for love. You want something thats convenient. Does that mean love is convenience? woooooo............. great question. Unfortunatley i did not ask the person because i wanted them to speak as much as they could before i interrupt and they have to start altering what they say.
Another girl seemed like she believed in it by her body language. What she spoke of seemed to conflict with what her body said. To all those people at this point thinking how was her body saying something and is that possible. Yes it is possible, her facial expressions showed a person that has hope of finding the right person for her who even if was a million miles away, she would abide with. The way she sat showed someone who seemed a bit vulnerable. Everytime something was said she would zone out for a few seconds to relate to her own expreriences. Her body was folding in like she was hurting at the thought of some experience. I assume thats what made her agreed with the other girls that long distance relationships dont work. The reason for this denouncing is because there is a lack of trust for a lover. There is always the question what if the person is cheating. Frankly, i feel that distance hasnt always go to do with the way a person will behave. If someone wants to cheat it's not because you are not there. They will do that even when you are there. Few people would genuinely cheat because they want someone to comfort them. Why dont you just let the other person go before you delve into your items but hey we are humans and humans make mistakes. It would make the world that little bit happier.
I will end my blog at this point due to lack of time but i shall return ASAP with a new topic. I hope i have touched a nerve in you. Thats the point. Comment as openly as possible, I'm not a journalist with a rep at stake! It will improve as I find ways to bring out my thoughs more.
Watch this space!!!
G-flexxx signing out..................
i belive that people now dys tend to measure there love by distance PYSICAL (u knw wahy thats in caps) and emotional distance and wen those are not matchin up for them they start to doubt the possibility and once doubt steps in Temptations start to come...Love can be measured by distance but it is true love that can not,true love stands the test of times love is jus to frail for it.personally i believe in long distances because my parents made it and they still make it..Communication plays a big role.and Will power in your heart u gtaa b willing to take this challnge n climb over it.the thought in the back of ur head of them cheatin will always b there bt if your open about it to eachother then you might find that is what they wre thinkin to.Honesty ,Trust ,Loylty plays such a major role in long distace...think when the painful part goes away the best will be yet to come.....True love makes it through everything.
ReplyDeletep.s Friends will be your biggest challnge cse they will 4 sure put doubt in ur mind..you gotta be strong when it comes to distance u gtta want it....
ReplyDeleteTrue yep you have to want it! thanks for ur comment
ReplyDeletedamn you gari 4 that topic ! .lol .. i think long dist relationships are fun ...lol most pple say whats the point n al but i enjoy them dnt knw how but i just do...most of my relationships are alwayz long dist n the guyz are alwayz in sum random countryz ..distance is not a major factor i think its how u relate to that person .. and if u feel loved up then that fyn thats all that counts coz u knw that u will get to see that person soon or later .. and thats gives you sumthing to look forward to or maybe its just be chattin shit ,,but thats how i feel ... and i love my long distance friendship with you gari ^_^
ReplyDeletethats a different approach. so wat happens when the person is around all the time? do you lose that spark?
ReplyDeletevery interesting but i think every relationship is personal, just as some people close to each other break up and some end up in a marriage. and some Marriages last till death and some end in a nasty divorce so the same goes for LDRs. the distance may be a factor but its the people involved that make it work or not! no one criticizes marriage when 50% of them end in divorces so why then should LDRs be given that much attention and tagged with negativity?
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