Sometimes....................

Sometimes when I think of what people say about Africa I get sad

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Ladies but why...............................

Im up late on facebook and I see something that triggers a thought. I think its about time ladies start accepting some of their decisions about men are appauling. WTF i mean come on. its not even the guy only to blame. What were you thinking? flexxxpression here we go!

The funny thing is that sometimes it's the ones that want to be gangsta about the decisions they make in terms of relationships. I will never let a guy hurt me blah blah blah, blah blah, blah blah. I've seen my friends get hurt and I'm not that stupid. YEAH RIGHT! stick that on your forehead. There are high chances that someone reading this post is in a messed up situation and they will keep blaming the guy. You made a bad decision and accept it. Get out before it gets worse.

When you are looking at someone, look at them like its an investment. Because if you are going to spend 60% of your free time with this person then you must get something real out of it. If in the 40% that you are not with the person and half of that time is spent stressed. And at the end of the day you break up, all in all you wasted 80% of your free time on something that didn't materialize. You might as well spend that time that time thinking about your life.

Anyway coming back to the story. ladies please use your head not your heart. all these people that say do what your heart tells you dont tell you that your heart doesn't take things literally. I don't like giving relationship advice cause most of the time i think that the person doesn't deserve to be in that situation. I'm not God so I will not tell you to leave that person. all that is up to you but what I will try to do is make you realize that you are paining more than you get pleasure.

Life is not a fairytale. The strong ones move on and the weak ones fall off. Take your time to find the right person. The right guy does not need to go about spraying bullets and hoping that he catches something. The right guy is a sniper and picks out his target carefully. The shot fired is precise and makes the kill that wins the war. No point going around hurting the innocent who go on to hurt more innocent. In the end no one wins. Just a bunch of bitter people blaming each other. Which takes me back to where I started.

The sad thing is my closest friends are also in there situations. Please open your eyes and see..................

Lets start accepting our mistakes and making better decisions

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I'm tired of hearing this.............

Excuse me all those ignorant people who feel the need to ask dumb questions. Please desist from asking things that you have not thought about before. I've had several problems with people saying wreckless statements. Like seriously........ WTF!!! We go to school for a reason.

Firstly, a few weeks ago a man in church asked where I was from. In politeness I told him that I'm from Zimbabwe and he said "Oh you came a long way. It must be hard for you to come here?" Huh......... are you kidding me? What right senses of yours made you assume It was a struggle to come here. Thats an insult to my parents who have made my life above average. Think before you speak. You might offend someone.

Secondly, people are afraid of change and are in denial that they are making changes to their lives when really they are in the same place. Well I'm not the best person to speak but I actually try although there are other things that are pending. Do not go out there and judge people to make yourself feel better because for all you know people might be shaking heads when they look at you. It's so easy to be a hypocrite that's why it is best to say things carefully. You may be the one that looks like an idiot after declaring to the whole world that you wouldnt do it.

Lastly, respect for other peoples life decisions is important. dont feel the need to impose your life on someone. if your formula works, great. you can suggest but dont keep insisting on doing things you have not been welcomed to do. The sad thing is these are all done by my friends and family. not just strangers.

Noone is perfect but lets work towards being close to it

Cool on the outside, boiling on the inside!!!

It is easy to walk by everyday and think your problems are the only ones that seem to extend rather than to end. As you walk through a crowded street, thousands of faces look at you and seem to be living a stress free life. little do you know that inside those heads there are a lot of thoughts that are causing physical and mental stress. Just like a volcano the outside does not really reveal what is building up below the earth. emotions boil to a dangerous level to which the explosion affects many people. especially when not handled well. In the same instance as a volcano erupting. if people are not aware of the situation then many people could be hurt. How else can you avoid this? there are some things a person may want to share but the reactions from friends and family discourage an individual to share the things that really bother him or her. There are some questions that a  person does not want to be asked for the mere fact that it is a realization of the dire mistakes made. The painful reminder makes it difficult to share. The best way is to believe that divine intervention comes through and takes care of its child who needs it most. The end to those problems will come. Positive thinking that a way out will be found keeps a person at bay. the tough challenges of life all need to be tackled correctly. assistance can never be underrated. a look into the sky reveals a sunny sky that is welcoming and reassures that better things will come. a pat on the back from a friend goes a long way. always make sure a friend, a relative or a lover receives that from you. it is not known when a person will break!!!

Addressing the word NIGGER!!!

Theres a very interesting debate that has been going on in the past few years about the word NIGGER. Personally i have a different view than most people. I'm gonna address it. I know some people are thinking OH NO HE DIDNT GO THERE. well yes I am. lets do this...............

Personally I have experienced racism in all four continents I have visited. The word Nigger to me is not just a word. its a word that represents  a mind set. its a word that comes with a belief. it doesnt matter if u get rid of the word. another one will come by. People need to stop worrying about how people use it and worry about how to change this stupid belief thats passed on from generation to generation. The experiment that was done with the kid to see which doll she would get between black and white just tells us that it begins at a young age. You may not train a baby to be racist but the way you behave can influence a baby to be racist without even knowing. By the time that person grows up it will be natural. its what they know. its not acting out of rage or whatever. It's acting out of nature. It's inevitable that we all have some sort of culture that we will not like. It doesn't make you a bad person. What makes you a bad person is public degradation of that culture.

People that live up to expectations of the word NIGGER are the ones that disappoint me. We need to rid of some behaviors that leave people vulnerable for discrimination. Some of the immature behavior exemplified by the rappers we listen to everyday is just causing this discrimination. The things they do influence how we are treated to a large extent. Lets not be naive and think that these people who are more than knee deep in the lavish life mostly don't use that to show growth and development. Most end up broke when they careers die. Few know what it takes to handle their finances.Lets rid of being known for buying rims and ridiculous chains that don't help us one bit. I don't expect 100% support, not even 20% but the people that think what I am saying is appropriate then I respect you. I'm tired of people looking down on us. We are taken advantage of and we do not speak out. We need people to be real. YES BE REAL. IF YOU SEE THAT YOU ARE NOT GETTING THE REAL DEAL SPEAK OUT. No one is any one else's master. even pets have rights so a human being must speak out louder than a pet.

I dont know why it comes as a shock every time a star from Hollywood does something racist. There is a little bit of racism in everyone. Its the level thats the problem. Those that say and do crazy things must go to rehab the same way they sent that actor from Greys Anatomy to rehab for calling a co star a fag. Is it not fair that a man that does that kind of wrong doing should be put at par with one that says racist slurs? Like that former Seinfield actor that had an outburst on stage. I'm sorry but that act is not forgivable just like that. I would like to see him serve a term in rehab. stick him in the middle of a New Orleans ghetto and ask him to say NIGGER to someone if he doesnt want to do that. That would be a nice way for him to learn a lesson. Even Dog the bounty hunter, I've lost respect for you sir. I cant believe you got your show back after things you said. Going on Larry King and crying doesnt fix what you said. Your mind set is still the same. Even if we take away the word nigger, the nigger mentality remains. Rehab for you too sir. Dont try straighten out other people when you have your own dirt in your closet.

Racism will always be an issue but reducing the level of discrimination is something we should look towards. People imagine a world where everyone is brown. Well lets see how that goes but I see the world ending before even half is mixed. I want to speak out on all the people that stick poor black babies for the sake of poverty. Excuse me but every race has poverty issues so can you please put more races on that same ad. thank you. I want to speak out to all the people that make it seem like Africa = Poverty. NO Africa = people who have not spoken yet. Our time shall come and everyone knows how loud Africans can speak. I want to speak out to all the people that look down on us Black people. If you have not noticed the influx of black people in every country, watch what we are going to do next. Its my time to support all the people doing great things. If I never make it in life, I know I am fighting for the recognition of my people. Hate or love it life aint easy. I will use my ability to put words together and direct it towards a better cause.

Ummmmmm i just realized that people are more willing to give money to an organization that sticks black kids on their campaigns but turn their heads when someone says aye please help out the people in your community, WOW. seriously!!! And i'm not talking out my backside. This really happens. I would love to do a study to prove it. Well the black kid is going to give to the community and go back and give to his community of birth just to show the rest of the world that we give to all.

Peace to all the people that show me love. Everyday we learn something; I learn something new every time I meet someone. If you are reading this, teach me something I dont see about this world.

Til the voice speaks again.....................

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